Some of us don’t even get to be in the out crowd at school

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No, this isn’t about reuniting Ireland. This is about school or college reunions.

No, this isn’t about reuniting Ireland. This is about school or college reunions.

Have you ever been to one or been invited to one? When the invite arrived, the chances are you were either delighted, dubious or dismissive.

All these years later I still cringe at the thought of how immature I was at school. It takes men a long time to fully grow up, if we ever do.

Many young people at school or college are immature.

It’s all-too-easy to be influenced by group prejudices like who we should be friendly with. Everybody wants to be in with the in crowd but the group dynamics can be cruel. Some don’t even get to be in with the out crowd!

Student experiences will colour reactions to any proposed reunion.

I’ve been to three. Twice I was slightly dubious about going and in the recent case of my rowing crew reunion from 1965, I was very happy to go but unsure if it would be a success.

As it turned out, all of the reunions were thoroughly enjoyable, easily surpassing my most optimistic expectations. It was a pleasure to meet up with old friends and the passing years had mellowed the whole group.

Warm conversations even took place between those who hadn’t been close the first time round.

So, if you’re invited to a reunion, my advice is to go. It’s a good thing to do. Incidentally, I’d also accept an ‘invite’ to that Irish reunion – if it ever comes.