Don’t be a dummy - it’s not that big a deal

Harper Beckham still uses a dummy when she is feeling unwell. The four year old tot was pictured, dummy (or dodi as it was known in my house) in her mouth during the week.

The ‘Daily Mail’ (aka Daily Fail) posted a story having a go. As the ‘Daily Mail’ is want to do. Even with a world of breaking news at its fingertips and a global staff of hundreds, the fact that Harper Beckham (daughter of David and Victoria) was sucking on her dummy was still banner headline news.

She’ll do herself harm, their ‘experts’ warned. She will have wonky teeth and won’t speak properly and - this was the kicker - “no child over three months of age needs a pacifier”.

Respectfully, I submit that no-one who says a child over the age of three months old needs a dummy has ever had a four month old.

I am firmly in the dummy camp.

The boy had one from he was a week or so old. The girl had one from her second day on this earth when she would not settle but did not want to be fed.

I loved the sight of their wee faces contentedly sucking on their dummies. I loved that there was something I could when they were fractious, tired or unwell that would provide them with immediate comfort.

I even think that dummies are really cute (Cue the gasps of horror from the uber mummies who only use them as an absolute last resort and feel like failures for resorting to calling on Mr Avent or Mr Tommee Tippee for help).

Dummies are there as soothers and they do what they promise to. Of course us parents have to have a bit of cop on as well.

Use a dummmy when it’s needed - not all the time. Cute as it can’t be, never let a child talk with their dummy in their mouth. If they are old enough to talk, they are old enough to take it out to talk. Use it for bedtimes and naptimes as soon as possible - or when they are unwell.

But beyond that, let babies be babies and toddlers be toddlers. And most of all, let parents be parents.

Stop being judgey people who enjoy having a go at others. Let she is who is without sin (be it calpol, disposable nappies, formula or any other parenting saviour) cast the first stone.

As Mr Beckham himself said: “Why do people feel they have the right to criticise a parent about their own children without having any facts?”

Fair point, Mr Beckham. Fair point.