Video: Support for bereaved parents from Derry and Donegal coping with the death of a child

Bereaved parents from Derry and Donegal gathered in the Mount Errigal Hotel in Letterkenny this morning, Wednesday, September 7, for the launch of a new Anam Cara information pack for people coping in the early days after the death of their son or daughter.

Wednesday, 7th September 2016, 11:15 am
Updated Wednesday, 7th September 2016, 2:17 pm
Dr Gerry Lane was keynote speaker at the Anam Cara launch.

The keynote address at the meeting was delivered by Dr Gerry Lane, Consultant in Emergency Medicine at Letterkenny General Hospital, the public face of the Road Safety Authority’s hard-hitting ‘Crashed Lives’ televised campaign.

Over 50 local organisations were at the launch and received copies of the new pack, which contains seven booklets on different themes related to parental grief, such as A Dad’s Grief, A Mother’s Grief, Coping with the Sudden Death of My Child and Supporting My Family.

One of the Anam Cara Donegal volunteers, Ciara Murphy, spoke at the launch about how she had been supported by Anam Cara: “Losing my son has been the most devastating thing that has happened in my life. Anam Cara has been there to help me pick up the pieces and learn to live again.”

Dr Gerry Lane was keynote speaker at the Anam Cara launch.

Founded in 2008, Anam Cara Donegal meets on the second Thursday of every month in the Mount Errigal in Letterkenny, affording bereaved parents from Donegal, Derry and North Tyrone a safe and comfortable setting where they can meet other bereaved parents. Anam Cara is open to all bereaved parents, regardless of the age or circumstances of their child’s death, or whether the death was recent or not.

Anam Cara CEO Sharon Vard said: “It is so important to ensure that any parent who is suffering the terrible and unimaginable ordeal of losing a child knows that Anam Cara is here to help.

“Our packs are a powerful resource for any family experiencing the death of a child, irrespective of whether the child was a baby or a grown adult. Newly bereaved parents need others to put this information in to their hands at the earliest stage of their bereavement journey.

“They are very fragile in the first few months and may not have the energy to pick up the phone or actively look for help.

Dr Gerry Lane was keynote speaker at the Anam Cara launch.

“Newly bereaved parents and families need the support of those who have suffered a similar experience and learned to cope again, they need reassurance that there is light at the end of the tunnel, that they too will be able to emerge from the depths of despair and start living and enjoying life again.”

The local groups represented included the Defence Forces, An Garda Síochana, the HSE, Letterkenny General Hospital and St Conal’s, Letterkenny Hospice, Rainbows, Jigsaw and ParentStop. Local priests and social workers were there too. A number of organisations from Strabane and Derry also attended, including Barnardos, the Family Voices Forum and the Western Trust.

Anam Cara is urging all frontline professionals who come into contact with newly bereaved parents to get in touch with them to request a delivery of free information packs. In this way they will always have the information on hand to give to newly bereaved parents when they need it most. Bereaved parents or their friends or family are also encouraged to get in touch to request a pack. This can be done by emailing [email protected] or calling Anam Cara’s Information Line on 085 2888 888.

At the start of the launch Anam Cara thanked a group of amazing local fundraisers who in July managed to raise €16,500 for Anam Cara in memory of little Anna Baird who died suddenly in 2013.

Anam Cara is a voluntary support organisation set up by bereaved parents to support bereaved parents throughout Ireland. For more information on its services please visit or call its information line 085 2888 888.

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