The Mindset Junkie: Are you trading your peace of mind to prove a point?

This year has been a crazy year and one that none of us have ever experienced before due to the level of confusion and uncertainty.

The global fear surrounding the pandemic has impacted every single one of us, unless that is, you’ve been living in a cave somewhere for the last six months.

No matter how focused I might be, there have been days and times during 2020 when I’ve sat back and questioned, what is really going on?

I’ve found myself getting caught up in debates that I would never involve myself in because I am maybe trying to prove my point of view, but that’s all it is, my point of view.

It is certainly not everyone’s view at this moment in time and it certainly doesn’t mean it’s correct either. It is simply a point of view based on my perceptions and how I view the world. But here is the lesson.

At times, I let my view rob me of my peace of mind, take away my focus, drain my energy. It can leave me feeling angry and frustrated, fearful and all for what? To prove a point to someone else? Or is it something more that people need to hear?

I’m not 100% sure would be the honest answer.

Now more than ever, everyone has an opinion on things that would normally never have been of interest. It is the effect of a lot of time on our hands, loss of control, feelings of anxiety and, to be honest, worrying about what these implications will mean for us all in the long term.

Is anyone sure? Can anyone accurately say how this will all play out?

No, none of us have been here before so it is unchartered territory.

The lessons I am learning from it all is that I do not need to drain my energy and focus just to try and prove my point of view and I do not need to trade my peace of mind just to try and prove my point either.

I do need to control the things that I can control which is what I give my focus, energy and attention to and we can all begin to do that so that we can feel empowered, instead of helpless.

We are already seeing the stress from all of this play out in people’s minds and in actions being taken. Taking back control of the single most important thing we can, our minds, is paramount to how we will all progress and move forward.

The feeling of disconnect at this moment in time is something none of us have experienced. I believe we all need to come together more and need to understand everyone’s individual situation better. We need less division, more connection and more understanding, more empathy and love instead of fear.

I have learned more and more this year to stop trading my peace of mind for things I can’t control, or not to do what I had been doing at times which was to try and prove my point of view.

We are all learning more about ourselves now more than ever before and we can all come together better and help each other so that it brings peace of mind, instead of confusion, stress and anger.

We can do this in every aspect of our lives, not just during this period. Don’t get me wrong, it’s definitely more important at this time but in life, work, business, how often do we trade our peace of mind and get involved in things that truly don’t concern us?

We often hand over our power to people and situations that ultimately we can’t control, or at least need a better understanding of.

On Saturday past I had a guest come in and speak to all the members of the Mindset academy. We talked of freedom and how freedom exists in the mind and discovered the mind is the only place that we lose that freedom and we often do it when we hand it over to things that we can’t control.

To take back control of our emotions, our health or our well being, we must first take back control of our thoughts and what we give our focused attention to so that we can step back and see our own actions and behaviours before we judge anyone else for theirs.

This is one of the biggest lessons that I have learnt about myself since the Covid pandemic changed our lives. We are all experiencing something we have never experienced before but we are all trying our best to handle it in the way that we know how so take a step back, judge others less and understand more.

‘In times of uncertainty, leaders emerge with certainty.’

How can you lead your loved ones at this time, the people who look to you for your help or who depend on you?

Do we do it by trading our peace of mind? Maybe just to try and prove your point of view? Do we do it by not living up to our values as a human being, understanding more, judging less and showing more empathy?

I believe we can all help each other more by being true to ourselves, by taking a step back from the madness, learning to let go of the ego and reconnecting with our true nature, love and understanding.

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Seamus Fox.