The Mindset Junkie: Don’t be ashamed to say you’re doing okay

It certainly wasn’t celebrated and, of course, there was no way they could have worked hard for it. Looking back now, that attitude was a big hurdle for me to overcome.

I remember being afraid to let people know I was doing well, or that my business was earning such and such or that, god forbid, I actually viewed myself as successful - well, shame on me!

It may seem trivial but how that unconsciously affected me a lot of times was massive. In hindsight, there were so many times that attitude would stunt my growth.

I would sabotage certain aspects of my growth and subconsciously fall back into line. I would retreat into that comfort zone that we all have so that I wouldn’t be seen to be doing well, or at least I wouldn’t be letting others know that I was.

This fact has been highlighted even more during this year. I mentor a lot of business owners and have helped some enjoy their best years in business while others have had more personal growth than ever before so is that something to be ashamed of? Is that not something that should be celebrated? I believe so.

The success (or what some critics might label ‘luck’) that someone might be experiencing in the present moment isn’t simply down to the work they have put in since January of this year.

More likely it is down to years, maybe decades, of trying and failing and building again, learning and adapting to tough situations that have left them better prepared them for this year.

Personally, I love to see people grow, do well and prosper, especially people I know. Are things often unfair or unjust during this or any tough time? Of course but do we give up and focus on it and let it control us? Of course not.

During economic down turns people still can prosper and do well and I don’t think it is something any individual should feel ashamed about, especially if that success means people are now in a position to help others, offer more support and create better change.

I’ve often heard quietly from people I’ve been coaching that they are afraid to say they are doing great and that this year has been one of their best because 202 has without doubt been tough on so many.

However, I think YOU SHOULD celebrate any success you have. Feel it, share it and enjoy it. There has been more than enough doom and gloom this year to last a life time.

Celebrate your victories, it creates a winning mentality. Even better, use those victories, big or small, to help others become winners in their lives because that’s the most rewarding aspect of being a mentor.

All the lessons I’ve learned over the years can now help others in their lives and businesses to help get them to where they want to be.

I think so many of us get stuck on ‘what if such and such says this’ or ‘they’ll just be thinking that’ or what will everyone think? It’s probably one of the biggest fears people have, the ‘What will people think’ conundrum but does it really matter?

Saying that you don’t care about what people think probably isn’t being true to yourself. We all care in some way or to some degree, especially if you have been on the end of some negativity in the past but it’s part and parcel of personal growth. Its the natural balance of life: for every positive there’s a negative - “Where focus goes, energy flows and where energy flows, it expands and grows.”

Make sure you are focusing in on what you have done this year, or the years before this, that has been a win for you and normalise those wins. Accept them. If you have hit goals this year congratulate yourself and celebrate it.

When we focus on our victories, we create a winning mentality, when we focus on our losses the exact opposite is true.

When you work hard and achieve your goals, that’s something to be proud of so enjoy the spoils of victory and allow the success to help you develop a mentality that will bring you back to that success time and time again.

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